Difference is natural, right? Well, maybe not—I guess it all depends on how you define difference. I say difference is natural because I define it as the uniqueness each individual is born into the world with. What isn’t natural is the value placed on some characteristics and not on others—whether they are physical or mental, tangible or abstract.
Joan Scott--in "Deconstructing Equality-versus-Difference: or, The Uses of Poststructuralist Theory for Feminism"--says "the concept of difference...is made through implicit or explicit contrast, that a positive definition rests on the negation or repression of something represented as antithetical to it" (448).
The most jarring personal experiences I’ve had with difference involve my father. He has cerebral palsy and is in a wheelchair. Obviously the definition of him as disabled relies on the meaning and value of able being antithetical to disabled. Furthermore, all of us in the "able" category are constantly exploiting and oppressing those in the "disabled" category; these two terms and their meanings couldn't exist without one another.
In addition to the obvious—having limited mobility—my dad sometimes slurs his speech and can be hard to understand. While most people may not see past this description, I know that he is also a member of the Pennsylvania Bar Association, my local school board and for twenty years ran a successful law practice. He's also a self-centered person and a bad father. And while this blog isn't a critique of him our turbulent relationship some how makes me feel like I relate to Kate Millett--from her negative experiences with her father to the way she writes and what she has to say.
Numerous times I’ve had to witness how my dad's disability allows for others to see him as different and "less than" based on this difference. My earliest recollection of noticing this difference is when I was in the fourth grade; my family was running late to one of my soccer games and as my mom opened the sliding door of the family van and the handicap accessible ramp opened for me to run down to the field it hit me for the first time—none of the other kids had vans with ramps in them, or dads in wheelchairs.
Years later I was on a business trip with my dad at a prison where he was doing pro bono work. My neck burned with shame and sadness as I saw for the first time how some of his colleagues reacted to his disability and how he had to work ten times as hard to assert his masculinity in a simple conversation. Disability is just one factor that complicates the intersectionality of oppressive structures, which are almost always gender based. In this situation my father was treated as less than a man because he had a disability. Even though he is a man, he is rarely treated with the perks of patriarchy others that share his gender often recieve...I can't even recall how many times the waiter or waitress has given my mother the check instead of him, not to mention the numerous times I've been asked--as someone sitting next to him at the table--what kind of side or salad dressing he'd like.
Doesn't this lend interesting insight to the ways those not possessing traditionally "masculine" characteristics are essentially viewed--as not having a voice let alone economic power?
So here comes the million dollar question: how do we eradicate power structures based on difference?
And, in relation to feminism, how can we value the natural differences women have—from one another and from their male counterparts—without exploiting these differences? Do we want to be valued and allotted power based on our difference or do we want to eradicate the concepts of difference and power all together?
I agree with Kate Millett when she writes “The term ‘politics’ refer[s] to power structured relationships, arrangements whereby one group of persons is controlled by another. By way of parenthesis one might add that although an ideal politics might simply be conceived of as the arrangement of human life on agreeable and rational principles from whence the entire notion of power over others should be banished, one must confess that this is not what constitutes the political as we know it, and it is to this that we must address ourselves…sex is a status category with political implications” (219).
And, while I appreciate Shulasmith Firestone for the idealistic concepts of which she writes: “…the end goal of feminist revolution must be, unlike that of the first feminist movement, not just the elimination of male privilege but of the sex distinction itself: genital differences between human beings would not longer matter culturally” (227). When it comes down to it, I don’t think power can be erased, I don't think sex distinction can be ignored. The answer must be--at least for the meantime--to recognize and embrace difference, making sure not to value one “different” over another.
Probably easier said than done...